Monday, October 14, 2013

From the Theatre...No Naughty Bits


Described as "a gloriously funny re-imagining of a real-life event", this play is about Monty Python, the icon of British humor. 

In the programme notes it says that Monty Python "were a self-contained comedy team responsible for both writing and performing their work, allowing them to experiment with form and content, discarding rules of television comedy." The play was written by Steve Thompson, commissioned by Hampstead Theatre in London. 

The Plot: the show Monty Python's Flying Circus is set to go to America in 1975, but the network has cut out the "naughty bits" (literally in one case, as the words "naughty bits" are apparently cut from a scene in the original show) and two of the creators, Michael Palin and Terry Gilliam have taken a plane to try to get them back in and preserve the original humor of their creation. 

This is a play with eight characters, perhaps the most in any play I've gone to aside from Agatha Christie's Mousetrap, which was produced by an international group and was only in Wellington on tour. The set represented many different locations, which was a first for me as well. The transitions were achieved by Monty Python-esque illustration on a projected screen in the background, followed by a sign with the label of the location, for example, "Airport" or "Court room." I'm not sure how this could have otherwise been achieved, but for me the mix of screen action between the acting scenes was a little detracting to the flow of the production, though the illustrations were definitely in keeping with the theme of the show. In fact, I guess it's what Monty Python does in the television series, mixing illustrations with acting, but somehow it's different when it's all onscreen. Others might see this as a brilliant touch making it more akin to the real Monty Python, but personally it was a little bit off-putting. 



Otherwise, the set and costuming was functional and engaging, particularly the costumes of Terry Gilliam, an American turned against his home country living in England. (The real Terry Gilliam did formally renounce his American citizenship in 2006). Played by Gavin Rutherford, this character was the most explicit and outrageous of the show, a feature which was excellently conveyed with a very convincing American accent (even while being silly and shouting, which is where most actors seem to lose their accents) and childish demeanor. (Having seen Gavin Rutherford previously in The Price, I can't help but feel he was perhaps more suited to that serious role and conveying the depth of serious emotions rather than this light-hearted comedy one, but had I not seen him before I probably wouldn't have thought anything of it.) I was a bit confused by the costuming and character of Nancy, who represents the Pythons in America (amongst other groups, such as rock bands). The clothes were an odd mix of professional and quirky, but I suppose that in a way is part of the American "style" that she represented, and the character was "nice", caring, suitably enthusiastic, but a perhaps little bit one-dimensional (which hopefully does not represent the American ideal). 

I was also extremely impressed by Andrew Foster's performance in the lead role of Michael Palin. He accomplished that very British feeling of wholeheartedly-silly-humor-while-still-being-slightly-reserved-and-probably-a-bit-disappointed-with-life. One can't help but like his character, and feel a bit sorry for him when he is let down. 

The more minor roles of Franklin (a woman representing the American network), Lasker (the judge), and Osterberg (representing the Pythons) were also excellent. Franklin, played by Emma Kinane, was the spitting image of that prim and proper middle-aged lady who you really dislike and don't want to have to interact with. Lasker, played by Stephen Papps, was an unusual character for a judge, a real airhead who actually likes the comedic stylings of Monty Python and doesn't seem to take his job seriously, but still rules against them in their court case. And finally, my personal favorite was Osterberg, played by Jason Whyte. He was superb in both dialogue and movement, conveying the right senses of not-wanting-to-participate-in-ridiculosity while still being on the side of the Pythons. 

I suppose the difference in these plays with more characters compared to those with less is that a lot of them will inevitably be more one-dimensional, but it's those portrayals like Jason Whyte's that still manage to add to the show without advertising the fact that it's a role that has less dimensions than the lead role. I'd make a point to go to plays that feature him as an actor (along with those that have Ray Henwood, who I saw in The Price, which I wrote about here). 

Overall, this play was funny and really enjoyable, (as you'd expect from Monty Python!) but hard to categorize because in my (very limited!) experience of plays, those with fewer characters and settings (and less plot line) explore the deeper aspects of life and human nature while those with more characters and settings tell a full-blown story, and this play kind of did neither of those things...or, it did both of those things in less depth. Keeping in mind that I am no expert, don't let that deter you from productions like these, after all it is each to his own and it was undeniably a show full of laughs. 



Saturday, October 5, 2013

The Meaning of Life

As anyone who's previously dropped by may have noticed, my title has changed from Meanings and Musings of Life to the current one, The Experience of Life. 

Having already had my existential crisis and given up on finding any meaning to life, I now devote my efforts to experiences within this facade of life that is all we know.

It struck me recently, (after having taught it on piano to multiple young students) that the children's song "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" holds an incredibly deep sentiment about life. It's quite nice. 


"Row, row, row your boat,
gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
life is but a dream."



The Definition of YOU.

"Time and tide wait for no man", as they say, and time is definitely continuing to pass at a pace that I am not currently enjoying, with the end of the school-year (in New Zealand) rapidly approaching.  For fellow bloggers out there, you've probably all hit a patch where life has been wearing you down a bit and you can't bring yourself to feel strongly enough about anything to actually write about it...apathetic writer's block brought on by being slightly overwhelmed, perhaps. Well, this is an appropriately un-romantic post at a time when life feels distinctly un-romantic.

Anyway without further ado,
will come discussion of the definition of you.
What makes a man, or woman unique?
The different factors can seem quite oblique.

There are personal choices, fashions, trends,
and those one chooses to have as friends.
What is it, though, that people really see?
Well, it's you, who controls that malady.

Well perhaps malady's a strong and negative word for people's perceptions, but sometimes perception is indeed undesirable. There are a few factors you can control. People are judged both on things that they have, (material things) and things that they are or do. The latter category is seen as the idealistic, "more important" one, but truthfully a lot of people will judge you more on material things, and indeed they will do this before they even know who you are or what you do.

Although this is a somewhat depressing reflection on today's society, we can use this when considering what we buy or own. Does each and every thing we have reflect some part of who we are, or how we want to be perceived by others? And if not, why buy or own it?

However, this also shows in people who are constantly buying for who they want to be rather than who they are now, don't fall into this habit. People who have too-small jeans they're holding onto, or books they've never read, or equipment they'll never use. Know who you are, and if you want to change who you are then by all means take measures to do so but don't buy things you won't use - in this case, start with the action. Make sure you can change what you do and that it feels right as a part of yourself, before you spend money on all the accessories. Don't buy for a vision, buy for your reality.


Sunday, September 22, 2013

The #1 Secret to Making Others Jealous

Titian - Miracle of the Jealous Husband
Jealousy and envy are strange emotions, sometimes barely there and sometimes all-consuming. Some people take a petty satisfaction in actually making people feel envy and jealousy, and other people unknowingly make people this way. It is an emotion every human being needs to learn to recognize and overcome.

With a little bit of thought, you will discover the real reason jealousy or envy occurs, and how you can make yourself more immune. In reality, jealousy, like all emotions, is more about you and what's going on in your head than what anyone else has done. Ask yourself these questions: Why do people feel envious of people with new cars, fancy gadgets, clothes, jewelry, etc? Why do people feel jealous of friends who get more social invites or people in happy relationships?

These people have great stuff, so they must be happy with what they've got, right? And if we had what they have, then we'd be happy like them. Without their stuff, we can't be as happy as they are.

Or can we?

That, my friends, is the #1 secret to making others jealous. Be happy. Even if you're not genuinely feeling happy, act as if you are and people will treat you more positively. Obviously you will still encounter negative people and grumpy bus drivers (for example) but don't let these people become obstacles to your own happiness.

Good things happen to happy people. Positive people (or even people who just act positive) are the people who get the most opportunities, because people want to work and interact with positive people. Makes sense, right? So go out there, do things that make you happy, let go of the things that don't make you happy, and don't start imagining that people with more stuff are better or more fulfilled than you are - as long as you are happy in life, they've got nothing on you.


Product Reviews, Hauls

There have been a few times I've started to write a product review for an everyday item on this blog, and every time I hesitate or falter. I have saved drafts of these things that I don't think will ever be published. Maybe it means this blog won't be as popular as those that do lots of product reviews and hauls, but I'm okay with that.

Even though I know reviews of things can be helpful, and lots of people really enjoy reading or watching videos about shopping "hauls", really it's very consumerist, and I'm not comfortable promoting consumerism as widely as that. I'm not interested in keeping the cycle of buying things going.

I do want to promote brands I like and can stand behind the policies or ideas of, like the products I've reviewed already from Seamly.co and Toms shoes, and products that have helped me achieve a specific goal (like my water bottle and drinking water). I have recently gotten into Lush products for body cleansing and moisturizing, so I may talk about some of those. Also, I find recipes and food items easier to write about and promote, as they are "consumable" items and not possessions to hoard.

People also do "Hauls" on things, and do posts or videos on what they've bought recently. Reading about what other people have bought, especially if it's a huge amount of stuff, is almost a kind of validation for the things you buy yourself. "Well, I don't buy as much as that girl, so I'm not as much of a shopaholic" or whatever. It's not that I don't buy frivolous things myself, but it's just not productive to see what other people have bought unless you're looking to buy things you didn't even know you wanted or needed. This is a habit we should be working to get rid of, not encouraging! You shouldn't be jealous of someone who has a lot of stuff - it's not objects that create happiness, so really there's nothing to be jealous of - you can be just as happy without an excess of stuff.

Think about practicing delayed gratification - remember, wanting things is more pleasurable than actually buying them, and experiences will always hold more personal value than stuff. So start up a savings goal for a trip to a foreign country, go see a few shows or sports games or concerts instead of buying stuff (but you can still leave that stuff on the "want" list), and fill your life with more meaning.


Tuesday, September 17, 2013

The Price of Service (and Musical Events Update)

It feels like it's been awhile since I last posted! Things have been catching up with me (German assignments, practicing music, an orchestral audition, discovering the store Lush, and life in general...) and I haven't really had the drive to actually finish one of the ridiculous amount of posts I have half-completed.

I have been to a couple of events since the last one I wrote about, and have reviewed these on my musical blog as they were an opera and a couple of chamber music concerts. So, if you're in Wellington and musically inclined, or just interested, you can read about them there.

Otherwise, just a quick note to remind everyone (and myself!) that I haven't quit blogging, and also have a bit of a muse about eating out, and the price of service.

Before my audition on Monday night (not yesterday but a week ago yesterday!) I went out for Thai food at Aroy's, a less-fancy and therefore cheaper Thai restaurant. As you can see despite the blurriness of the photo,  the seating was of the hard, plastic, uncomfortable variety and although the food was brought out to your table, there were no "waiters" as such who you could call on to bring water or other needs. The menu was just on the wall behind the ordering counter, and prices were around $10-12 for main meals.


As with any restaurant, it has hits and misses on their menu. From my experience though, there are more successes than failures here. Pictured below are our two "starters", the roti with peanut sauce and curry puffs with chili sauce. The curry puffs I'd pass on, I mean they're "all right if you like that sort of thing" as my dad and brother like to evasively answer, but the thick, pasty filling wasn't to my taste. the roti though was much better than it looks, and the peanut sauce was excellent. I'm a big fan of roti and naan breads, and this stuff was surprisingly good.


For mains we ordered Pad Thai and a fish curry. Pad Thai is a favorite of mine, and although the stuff I've had is undoubtedly not as authentic as the real thing, I've never really had Pad Thai that I haven't enjoyed! The portion sizes here are generous, especially for noodles, and I had enough from my order to provide me with a decent lunch for the next day as well. I had a taste of the fish curry as well, which was delicious, and had vegetables and pineapple along with the fish, and the dish had rice included (rather than ordered separately for an extra cost) which was nice.

Fish curry

Pad Thai - chicken

Leftovers!
The dinner got me thinking about how little this food differed from other Thai I've had in the past, at more expensive restaurants. The difference between this and the expensive places was mainly in the service - at the other places, tables were more comfortable, the ambiance was more thought-out (with things like fish tanks and themed silverware), menus and water were brought to the table, and waiters came to check how things were going and offer a dessert menu at the end of the meal.

Is the added cost of the food at these places worth the price of the service? Of course when you're talking about comparing McDonald's food to a restaurant hamburger and fries then that's a different story, but the food comparison here was much narrower. If all you really want is a good meal then it would be in your interests to have more places like Aroy's, cheaper prices for good food without the extra service, and still no dishes to do afterwards. 

But obviously, an interesting atmosphere and good service is part of the reason to eat out. It's also why Mongolian grills and sushi trains exist, because it's a feast of fun for the other senses in addition to taste. It's all part of the experience. And even if a restaurant is charging more for atmosphere and service rather than the actual food you're getting, paying for the experience of eating food there is better than buying more stuff to hoard in any case.

Finally, for another interesting experience I had recently - this is a juice I was treated to at a cafe awhile ago (in addition to a delicious chicken cannelloni for lunch) - called "Chia". It's blueberry and apple flavored, this stuff has seeds in it! Lots of them...it kind of looks like frogspawn, and it was a bit weird to be able to chew a beverage, but it was still pretty tasty and definitely out of the ordinary. I would have it again if I saw it around. This stuff was made in Nelson according to the bottle, which is where I first lived (and finished high school) when my family moved to NZ. And it's supposed to be very healthy...haven't researched into this, but chia seems to be growing in popularity due to its supposed health benefits.


The juice of a new experience...

Sunday, September 8, 2013

Cooking and Baking, and Carrot Cake

I used to be a huge cooking and baking fan (well, still am!). I would obsessively follow food blogs (still read quite a few) and copy down literally hundreds of recipes the old fashioned way, by hand, onto index cards...crazy, I know. I remember having multiple attempts at trying to create the perfect, and so elusive, French macaron, and being ecstatic when I finally had a batch came out with feet! (Not to be confused with macaroons, the coconutty cookies). And in high school, rather than going out with friends on the weekends (because after my Vermont friend left I no longer had any) I would choose a country and make "ethnic" meals for my family on Saturday nights. To the frustration of my family, sometimes this took longer than anticipated as I would often try to make everything from scratch, as in, if I was making tacos or enchiladas, I would make the tortillas as well.

Now, I'm at university and don't have time to cook and bake, or money to buy ingredients all the time. Yes, it is usually cheaper to bake than to buy the same number of cookies or a gourmet cake, but in reality I don't want a whole batch of cookies or a whole cake to myself, even if over the space of a week or so. So practicality demands that I buy single pre-made cookies and baked goods, usually of inferior quality, but they're enough to satisfy a craving.

I do really miss baking sometimes, and the smells of warm vanilla and caramelized sugar wafting from the oven. I miss cooking new and interesting dishes, and experimenting with different flavors. And now, I do wish I'd gotten pictures of some of my more impressive creations, like the finally successful macarons, mille-fueilles, chocolate truffle tartelettes (which I had to do gluten-free for an uncle of mine!), and strawberry-vanilla floating islands, complete with fluffy homemade marshmallow. But right now, I really just wanted to bake a simple carrot cake, with cream cheese icing. (Well by "wanted to" I really mean that it makes use of the carrots and icing sugar that have been sitting around for far too long and cluttering up my fridge/pantry.)


Carrot cake honestly isn't really my thing - or, not my "cake of choice" so to speak. Although upon eating it I do find it delicious, but I probably wouldn't choose to make it if I didn't have carrots that needed using up, and I definitely wouldn't choose to make it without cream cheese icing, king of all cake icings. This is the best simple carrot cake recipe I've come across, it's one I got from my aunt. It makes a small round cake, with a not-too-heavy texture and slightly spiced flavor. (Recipe included below).


I made these peanut butter and chocolate chip buttons too, inspired by 17andbaking, to use up some peanut butter and sugar. Didn't use the same peanut butter cookie recipe, (and kind of made up my own, really) and the texture of mine was very light and crisp, not your typical peanut butter cookie but still tasty.

It's easy to be a good cook or baker. Really. You've just got to approach it with the right mindset - which is, that it's very difficult to ruin food. If you've got some chicken breast or something all you have to do is put it in a pan and watch and cook it until it's done, and you've got something palatable. Maybe not very interesting, but still good to eat. Add a little salt, spices, butter, lemon juice, or herbs to that chicken as it cooks, and you've got something flavorful and delicious. If you're looking to bake cookies or a cake all you have to do is mix butter, sugar, egg, and flour together in the right proportions, which you can learn by following simple recipes. The carrot cake I made was even slightly adapted from the "real recipe" as I didn't want to buy a banana, and I used different amounts of spices, so I used different things instead. Everyone has their mistakes and things that haven't turned out well - don't let a few "failures" make you think you're a bad cook!

(Unless you're masquerading as a bad cook just to get others to cook for you, in which case it's a shame you don't enjoy the art-form that is food preparation, and the satisfaction of eating your own creations!)

P.S. And the ingredients/basic recipe for the carrot cake:


Grandma Brown’s Carrot Cake

2 eggs
¼ c. oil
½ c. sugar
½ tsp. mixed spice
½ tsp. vanilla
½ tsp. salt
1 ½ c. grated carrot
1 banana, mashed
1 c. flour
1 tsp. baking powder
½ tsp baking soda

1.     Mix dry ingredients (last 3).
2.     Pre-heat oven to 150 degrees C (300 degrees F). Beat together first 6 ingredients and add carrot and banana.
3.     Combine with dry ingredients.
4.     Bake for 20-30 minutes.



Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Comprehension of Humanity

As I looked out of my bathroom window this morning, something struck me, something I had always known as a fact but only fully realize in certain moments, like this.

I live in a city.



A city full of tall buildings and lots of people all doing their own thing. I never feel it though. It doesn't feel as if Wellington is "bustling with life" and full of business-people, but the many tall buildings say otherwise. Though they appear solid and still, they are not empty, and there is movement within their quiet exteriors.

Who are these people who work and live in the tall buildings, the self-contained little environments of so-called productivity? We are all small parts of machinery that make up the whole of the planet, each adding our own energy and producing our own waste. I don't think humans have the ability to comprehend how many of us there are currently in existence, and how insignificant each of us is as an individual. And even if we could, we still don't know to what end we are working. Or in other words, we just don't know the purpose of our existence.

I don't like thinking about it much, probably not many people do. I guess there can be a satisfaction in knowing that you don't have an impact. A certain peace can come from that knowledge, I guess...the thought that you simply spend your allotted time on Earth, and then depart to do who-knows-what-next. But that peace isn't there for me, not yet at least.


Sunday, September 1, 2013

From The Theatre...The Price, by Arthur Miller

I saw another play on Friday night. It was at 8pm, meaning it would end quite late as it was about two hours long (plus an interval on top of that) and it was horrible weather, freezing cold and wet. Having to walk to and from the venue was a bit of an unpleasant inconvenience in those conditions. However, this play was definitely worth it all.


The Price is a play by Arthur Miller. He is also author of other famous works that I had heard of, like Death of a Salesman and The Crucible. The programme notes describe it as "a classic tale of a house divided, which addresses his [Arthur Miller's] concerns of illusion, denial and betrayal."

I guess that due to my youth I haven't yet come across many "classic tales of a house divided," and certainly none that have moved me as much as this performance. As far as the play goes, it was a work of not much plot and very good acting, just the way I like my plays best. The actors played their parts so well that it felt as if the audience was intruding on a very personal family scene, seeing arguments and "dirty laundry" that we weren't meant to see - that nobody was meant to see.

Explaining it all might be a bit confusing, but I will try! The play has four characters, brothers Victor (Gavin Rutherford) and Walter Franz (Christopher Brougham), Victor's wife Esther (Jude Gibson), and an old man, Gregory Solomon (Ray Henwood) who used to work giving appraisals and selling furniture. Victor and Walter have inherited their family's  possessions, and Victor has called the old man, (who is almost 90) to give an appraisal and buy the whole houseful of furniture. Victor and Walter haven't spoken in years, however, (although Victor called Walter recently about the matter of selling the furniture, to no response) so Victor and Esther begin doing this on their own.

The set conveyed a very detailed, old-fashioned and cluttered atmosphere, of old memories and old treasures (or junk!) and there was only that one room serving as the set of the entire play.

The old man (who although retired, has responded to Victor's call) is about to buy the furniture from Victor when a spanner is thrown into the works and Walter stops by to visit. Victor works as a policeman, but has always dreamed of doing science. Walter has lived out Victor's dream and is a successful doctor. Family life has been very difficult for them, as Victor felt he sacrificed his life joining the police force to support his father after his mother died, while Walter went off to finish studying science. It comes out that their father may not have needed the help Victor believed, and that Walter had always known this.

As expected this brings up many painful memories and fiery disagreement between the brothers. Esther has to cope with her inner conflicts too, as she has had a very hard time through life with their financial hardship. And even though Walter has come with good intentions (offering Victor an administration job where he works and offering to give Victor a very large sum of money for the furniture, which they could get by using it as a charity donation on Walter's taxes) Victor is unwilling, or unable, to change the way he thinks, and they leave on very unresolved terms. Eventually Victor accepts the old man's cash offer for the furniture and he and Esther leave to go to the cinema as they had previously planned. The play concludes with the old man Solomon sitting in an old chair, playing a "laughing record"(that Walter had played right at the beginning of the play before the other characters entered) and laughing along hysterically.

The actors were all superb, and I especially enjoyed Ray Henwood's performance as Solomon, the old man. He was probably the most convincing as an American to me, and portraying a Jewish New Yorker no less. The other actors I felt sometimes had little slips in their accents, sometimes using the stereotypical New York inflections and other times using more general American inflections, but their portrayals of the characters, the smooth flow of the dialogue, and the palpable emotional tension more than rectified the tiny details of speech and accent. And I've never lived in New York either, so it's not as if I have the best basis for comparison.

It's one of those plays that makes you think about life, and what really matters, and how easily things can be forgotten, even if they are life-changing...because really they have to be forgotten or life will never go on.

Speaking of forgotten though, I really need to stop going to plays (and other events) set in New York City, or America, it makes me really want to live there. To go back home (if it is home anymore). Unfortunately, I can't forget how uncomfortable and how not-at-home I feel here in New Zealand. So I got some Hershey's Kisses on the way home, giving in to a little bit of nostalgia at 11pm. (And Solomon mentioning a Hershey's bar in the play did have a part in igniting the craving for American chocolate!) I don't think I like the word "nostalgic" very much, it sounds quite stuffy, old, and undesirable. But I do find it applicable in a lot of my life and I feel it a lot, just as I did as I unwrapped the gold foil on these kisses, savoring a little taste of my old home.



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Thursday, August 29, 2013

Sesame Street: Me Want It (But Me Wait)...Appropriate?

And as a follow-up to my chocolate chip cookies post, here's a video of the biggest chocolate chip cookie fan ever:





I'm not sure how appropriate this is for children (the target audience of Sesame Street) to be watching, what with talking about cookies almost like sexual objects of desire (Cookie Monster does have a one-track mind), with the background of club music and puppet dancing, not to mention extremely bad grammar, which is repeated a LOT (me want it!?)...but I guess times are changing, and it does have a good message, teaching kids and grownups alike the importance of "#controlmeself", (or delayed gratification).

And even with all the sexual vibes of the words, Cookie Monster is too cute and fuzzy to transmit any serious questionable intentions...I think!


Chocolate Chip Cookies!



Today was a day of cold, awful weather and piano teaching. (Somehow, the two always seem to go together.) When I got home in the early afternoon, it was time for some lunch. So, I made cookies!

I did have actual lunch too, in the form of a protein-shake, which is something that I've recently decided to try. I shook up some protein powder (chocolate flavored) and half a can of coconut milk in my chilled shaker - I think I'll add some honey next time, and MCT oil too (which I've already mentioned here), even though this was pretty tasty and filling by itself.
One of my goals during this two-week period of holidays from university is to clean and de-clutter my space, and I have a few things in the pantry to use up. Some of these things (brown sugar, flour) just happen to be cookie ingredients, and the fact that chocolate chip cookies are my favorite dessert ever meant that these just had to happen. I might have to make a cake next week as well to use up the rest of my ingredients too...


To make these, I used my favorite recipe ever, from David Lebovitz's Great Book of Chocolate, which was given to me from my friend from Vermont in a package from America. I've loved every recipe in the book that I've tried! The recipe for these cookies can be found online here at the Smitten Kitchen, which is incidentally one of my favorite food blogs ever. I had to modify the recipe a bit because I didn't have any white sugar and wasn't going to buy any (since the aim was to use up ingredients!) and also I omitted the nuts. So consequently, the texture was a little bit different, but of course that was expected because the type of sugar you use does influence the final texture of your cookies. And they were still delicious - can't go too wrong with classic chocolate chip cookies.

A few pictures of the process (and results!):

Mixing dough - made the typical mistake of starting off with a too-small bowl (pictured above) and having to transfer to a larger one after making a mess!

Formed and ready for baking

Spreading out in the oven!


Delicious final product

Lunch is served....

Golden, crisp, chewy and chocolatey!
Do you have a favorite chocolate chip cookie recipe, or baking/cooking blog that you like to read?


Wednesday, August 28, 2013

TOMS Wrap Boots


I seem to have a thing for red boots, even my pair of real leather boots has a reddish tinge. I got these wrap boots last year and they're still going strong, in great condition. They do take a little while to get on and off but they are so comfortable and I have gotten many compliments on them and their unique-ness (some have said they are like ninja shoes!). I'm glad I got them before they were discontinued, but I'm really liking the design of the other boots and shoes TOMS is coming out with, and of course their simple, original design. (Not that I'm planning on buying any more shoes, still on my quest for wardrobe minimalism). These boots can be wrapped high or low to make calf-length or ankle boots. The promotional video can be found on Youtube so you can see what I mean properly if you're interested. These were apparently inspired from leg wraps used on racing horses.


Lately I've been reading about how TOMS doesn't actually help people as much as we consumers are led to believe by their marketing. Kelsey Timmerman writes here about how the "One for One" policy TOMS has of donating a pair of shoes to countries in need for every pair bought is ineffective. (And also points out that TOMS shoes are still made in China, NOT the US!) It's the give a man a fish vs. teaching him to fish scenario, where you either have a very temporary solution or a lifetime one. The other thing is that most people in third-world countries do have access to shoes, but may not have the means to buy them. So simply giving them a pair of shoes doesn't solve the real problem.

However if nothing else, TOMS as a brand does spread some awareness about the poverty and difficulties some people face every day. Their advertising spreads a message to a wide audience of people, even if the truth of their results is less beneficial than it's made out to be. They also have "One Day Without Shoes" campaigns to raise awareness, with the idea that people experience what it's like to go barefoot, because some people don't have a choice. Although I can't understand how it's such a big deal going barefoot in first-world countries, on smooth pavement and indoors, and I myself often choose to go barefoot, actually. (Firstly it's more common in NZ, and secondly, I'm also into barefoot running.)

But anyway they definitely make helping people in need a feature of their marketing and I'm sure they intend for customers to buy their shoes because they can feel good about helping someone.

If you buy TOMS shoes, do so because you actually like their designs as a part of your personal style, rather than doing it to make a lasting change in someone's life - because chances are, you aren't going to do that by buying a pair of shoes.


How to Pick Up Girls (or Guys)

Lots of guys and girls seem to be looking for tips on how to ask people out. But the people who are already successful at doing so know that really, it's not that difficult. All it takes is a little confidence, and a lack of caring about what others (and usually, these "others" are strangers) may think about you.

All you have to do to ask someone out is initiate conversation. From there, it's easy. There are factors that increase your rates of success, like:

  • being fit, healthy, hygienic and put-together in appearance
  • choosing people who aren't already married or in relationships
  • finding people with similar interests, age group, goals, looking for the same kind of relationship, etc.

But you'll find that a lot of people are open to conversing and even meeting for a coffee (or other activity) for further interaction if there were mutual interests in the conversation. Found out that you both like theatre? Offer to go see a play together. You both like movies, sports, art, or music? You see where this is going. And these are basic topics that might easily come up in a casual first-time conversation.
Basically, all you have to do is do it. Don't over-think things. Talk to them. Ask. It's that simple. You'll never get better at asking people out if you aren't trying at all.

And if you are already interested in a person you've seen, a good way to get into a conversation is by giving them a compliment - you know that'll already be a mutual interest, because you're talking about them and people like talking about themselves, no matter what they might say to the contrary. Girls (and guys) are likely to be impressed by compliments in a casual setting, as in, NOT at a bar or nightclub under the influence of alcohol, because they'll seem more genuine. Specific, interesting compliments are the best for making people feel you are really interested in them and not generically trying to pick them up. For example "your hair looks really nice," rather than "you're hot."


If that's too forward for you, then another first step to initiate a conversation is to simply make eye contact, and then ask them a question. A popular example of this is "do you have the time?" and these days, it's a good one to use directed at people who are obviously making use of technology. Talking to people should be easy, we're all human after all and people don't usually react badly to simple requests and questions...and usually, people would rather say yes than no.


And this eye contact level is a little
on the creepy side for a first encounter!
Probably don't want to pursue if
they're looking at you with this
expression...
You've all probably been in the situation where you're at a bus stop or on a subway and you catch someone potentially checking you out, or you get caught looking at someone - well use that as a first step to conversation or even flirting, rather than embarrassment! Be confident. Give them a compliment or ask them a simple question. What's the worst that can happen?


Maybe they'll think you're a creep, or not want to talk to you, or say no if you ask them out. Well, seeing as before there was any interaction you were complete strangers, you're not really any worse off. Don't take it personally if they don't want to talk or say no to you, surely you've had times when you've wanted to avoid a conversation or go meet someone, and it's not always to do with the other person. If they don't want to talk to you or go out with you, than it's their loss.


Be proud of being rejected. It just shows that you had the guts to ask in the first place, and trying something and failing is far more noble than never having tried for fear of failure. 

This applies to friendship as well as potential relationships. When you're in a situation like waiting in line or on a train or at an event, take any opportunity to chat with the people around you. You can use things around you to make conversation, or asking them something about themselves works too, like where they're from or what they do for a living.

 I recently had a situation where I was at the library and the lady at the front of the line had what looked like 40 books to check out, she was carrying two bags full. The printing of the check-out receipt took a long time, and I found it funny, so I turned to the man behind me and said "long reading list" and we shared a chuckle. Even doing that felt like a really difficult thing to do, but it shouldn't have been! I'm going to work on it, and I think you should too. (Some people even challenge themselves to talk to a stranger every day!)
And, if I was single (which I'm not) and wanted to take things further with that guy, (and if he'd been several years younger), I could have easily done so by asking "what are you reading?" and the conversation could have progressed from there.

We are all human and therefore we all have some things in common!

Old-fashioned people probably conversed a lot more, with the absence of technology to do it for them!

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Theatresports as Life

Theatre exterior on a very gray day
On Sunday night I went to a show at Circa Theatre, on the Wellington Waterfront. It wasn't technically a "show" though, but rather, Theatresports Freestyle, which was a comedy competition between two teams of improv actors. My response to the evening's entertainment: it was really awesome! Marvelous, even. Lots of laughs and great audience participation - we got to choose the winning team!

The two teams were just splendid to watch, with great interaction and character interplay. They responded to each other really well and were very quick on the uptake (most of the time!) to each others' new ideas and new characters. Theatresports is where acting is literally reacting.

It got me thinking: this is how real life should be! People should approach life with a comical (or at the very least good-humored) nature and try to respond positively to other people's ideas, with the idea of adding to and enhancing their value rather than dismissing or putting them down.

Even though not all of us are trained to be actors, we are all our own characters in the story of the world. We have the power to change how our character reacts, what our character does, and how our character approaches new situations. Even though we don't have a sit-down audience, we have the audience of our peers, colleagues, friends, family, and everyone we know. Let's put on a good show.

(P.S. If you're reading this in Wellington, NZ, there are still 7 more weeks of Theatresports Freestyle shows that you can - and should - attend!)



Poetry and Writing

I've always had a knack for poetry. I think I (usually) kind of write in the style of Jack Prelutsky or Shel Silverstein, who we read a lot of in elementary school. In 5th grade (or at the age of 10) I composed the following:

If the world were upside down,
there would be trouble in every town!
People would be walking on their heads,
falling right out of their beds!
If we smiled, it would be a frown,
if the world were upside down.

I remember deliberating endlessly whether to say "if the world WAS upside down" or "if the world WERE upside down", but I think I finally figured it out. I wrote others too of course, but that's the only one I fully remember as it's one of the shorter ones. I really enjoy the rhyming and nonsensical style, cute and clever, quaint and fanciful, or, a personal favorite adjective, "capricious"... kind of inspired by Lewis Carroll and the very definition of the word "whimsical"...Jabberwocky, anyone?
(Of course I love Dickinson and Edgar Allen Poe too, and most poetry in general really!)

I also like beautiful writing, and I like clever metaphors and pieces that don't really serve a purpose but at the same time make you think. I haven't really felt comfortable putting any of that in my blog yet, and have instead put in snippets of poetry that serve the same purpose.

The perceived danger of writing like that is that it can seem, as they say, "hokey", ("mawkishly sentimental, corny, or noticeably contrived, artificial" from www.thefreedictionary.com) to the reader, and I have read some blogs with writing like this that DOES seem a bit like that to me. Even though I can appreciate the cleverness of the ideas...sometimes it just seems overdone. I don't want to seem like that to anyone, or myself, I don't want to look back and think "what was I thinking", especially if what I chose to write about was personal (which it often is, in that genre of writing).

I also don't want to presume that people actually want to read that kind of material, that I have written. It's by genre not a form of writing that is best for communicating with a wide audience, but is most effective when personalized in a special way. The intention of that writing is to make people feel rather than give them information, and that each person responds in their own individual way. But, I feel most comfortable when my posts have a purpose and clear message to convey, or showcase some event or product/company that other people can attend or try for themselves.

But, maybe I'll try one of these days, just writing something for the sake of the writing, and put it on the Internet. Maybe I'll presume people will want to read it, and not find it hokey...and just not care if they do find it that way. Maybe someday. (Maybe soon.)

(Maybe someday I'll stop writing with so many excessive commas that I have to proof-read just to edit them out, too!)